I’m trying to learn more about understanding conversational tension and how to use it, including sexual tension. I’ve never really defined this term well, but after reading this article, I’m solid:
Sexual tension is the CONTRAST between a state of ATTRACTION, and lack of ESCALATION.https://championsofmen.com/5-ways-to-create-sexual-tension-with-a-girl-over-text/
This is an excellent definition, and the best way that I do this on dates is by holding strong eye contact, talking slowly, and occasional/gentle touches. If she’s receptive, I know there’s attraction, and I’ll eventually pretend to go for a kiss.
I’ll lean in and place my hand on her chin or cheek to make her think I’m about to kiss her, and as she leans in to kiss me, I don’t let her kiss me. Instead, I’ll dodge it, pull her closer, do something else instead: maybe I’ll breath in her hair for a moment, brush my lips on her ear, or slide a finger SLOWLY on the back of her neck. Maybe I’ll give a bit of a growl, and then my date melts (or even better: moans). I love turning girls into putty.
Then I pull away, recompose myself, and ask them something totally superficial “So. You got any pets?”.
Occasionally, girls succeed at kissing me, and I make sure to playfully call them out on being so sexually aggressive and escalating quickly.